![]() ![]() My mom sews everything from window valances to baby hats for her granddaughter, kayaks and snowshoes, and finds and reads the most obscure, historically interesting books, like Louisa May Alcott's early mystery stories. My dad, for example, flies planes, fixes cars, and runs a classic film festival in our backyard. And both people should be able to forge out their own lives while with each other. So what makes a relationship worth fighting for? The ones I see working have a few things in common: The people in them have their differences and disagree sometimes, but damn it if there isn't a very clear spark there. I see the way my parents laugh with each other, and I have a feeling she's right about that. My mom told her that if it was gone even before getting married, then there was no hope. It was tough.īut my mom was the first person to tell my sister to give up on a relationship of five years when my sister admitted that she felt like the "spark" had gone. And this was in the '70s, so Gchat was not a thing. My parents lived in different states while they dated for four years, for example. It's also important to know the difference between relationship deficiencies and circumstantial f*ckery. One person's always giving a little more or a little less - and if you expect it to be perfectly balanced, you're in for a bad time. "Sometimes it's 30/70, sometimes it's 80/20," she says. My mom likes to say that "50/50" effort in a relationship is a joke. My parents have been together for 35 years, and seeing how they sometimes want to kill each other, but are also perfectly suited to one another and are building their own unique version of life together, has made me a believer in toughing it out through rough patches. But I also think that you should work through rough patches in relationships when you can. Life is too short to be with someone you don't have fun with, or who makes you feels shitty about who you are, or who never laughs at your jokes (Taylor Swift knows what I'm talking about). ![]()
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